Praise in public, but reprimand in private


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Praise in public, but reprimand in private

There is no better feeling than public recognition from someone we respect.  We should be consistently looking for honest opportunities to praise our children openly. 

 

Obviously, too much reward and undue praise for hardly anything (should be age-appropriate) is ridiculous.  Praise for honest effort and honest accomplishment.  Praise proper behavior.  Don’t miss an opportunity to let your child know they did a great job.  Rewarding them at the moment is a way to encourage a great attitude and excellent effort. 

 

Most of us have experienced public humiliation some time in our life.  For many people, these memories haunt them forever.  Being a parent is not easy.  Sometimes we get angry and want to “teach our child a lesson.”  But is it important to remember that, no matter how angry we are or what our child has done, we should not humiliate or reprimand them in front of others.  Each parent can use their own judgment on this concept.  But, generally speaking, the best way is to cool down first and then address the matter privately. 

 

Kids need to know boundaries and what is expected of them and why.  By you as parents, knowing first your own values, you can help encourage right and wrong behavior and actions of your children.  Teach your kids to want to earn you’re approval and praise.  But is someone gets out of line try and talk about it.  The praise – correct – praise method is a good way to remember this.  This means to be a good finder.  In other words, praise good behavior or effort make a suggestion or correct and praise the result of finding something else to praise them about what they are doing right.  For example, “Johnny I really like the way you are doing your homework after school and getting better grades now.  We would, however, like to see you not playing your computer games so late at night and get a little more sleep.   So when we say lights out that means it is time to go to bed okay?  “By the way awesome job helping your little sister today.”  - Sifu Dan Timlin


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